Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Becoming Real

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

-from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

Isn't it beautiful how some of the world's most profound wisdom can be encountered in the simple, straightforward words of children's books?

Like The Velveteen Rabbit, I have spent a lifetime "becoming real." I have spent innumerable dollars, therapy hours, study hours and calories trying to become the person I was meant to be. In short--trying to learn to love myself.

My journey wasn't easy. I didn't always love myself--hell, I didn't even LIKE myself some days. Over time, I've come to accept myself and my body, for what it can do, and NOT for what it looks like.

I've been feeling a little insecure and down-trodden this week (a self-esteem slump maybe?), so it's good to have a reminder to keep my spirits up, stay true to myself and to not be hardened by stress or circumstance. This passage from The Velveteen Rabbit always reminds me that life is all about becoming, learning, growing, and loving. We must weather the self-esteem lows in order to grow as individuals.

In terms of self-esteem and insecurities, I think Lady Gaga said it best:
"When I wake up in the morning, I feel just like any other insecure 24-year-old girl. Then I say, ‘B***h, you’re Lady Gaga, you get up and walk the walk today.'"
--July, 2010, Rolling Stone Magazine

You got it so right, Gaga--thanks for the self-esteem reminder. Readers, tell yourself, "I will walk the walk today," hold your head high and feel proud to be your own, unique, YOU :)

Q.O.D. (Question of the Day): What quote or saying inspires your when you hit a self-esteem slump? What's your favorite children's book?


  1. It is beautiful how the "classic" children's books have life lessons tied to them. I love the excerpt that you is so true!!

    I am still trying to love myself...I have come a long way since meeting Dave 7 years ago and have made a major improvement since meeting you 3 years ago. I still have some self-esteem issues....I have good days/weeks and bad ones.

    I don't have any quotes or saying but I'm thinking of making an inspiration board (as you mentioned before) and seeing how that helps!!

  2. That's so great - thanks for posting the except from the Velveteen Rabbit.
    And I've never heard that Gaga quote, but I love it! And I didn't know she was only 24!
    It was so fun on our run yesterday - great meeting you :)

  3. I love your background! How cool;) I love the velveteen rabbit for the story, but I was always freaked out a little by the skin horse. Not sure why! My favorite children's book is Shel Silverstein's The Giving Tree